Fun fact: as human beings, we are created for connection.  The neuroscience behind this is quite fascinating, but what it boils down to is that our connections and relationships with others play a large part in how we make sense of the world around us. 

Relationships bring goodness into our lives - and, they can often be a source of harm and pain.  The beauty of what neuroscience teaches us, however, is that our minds have an ability to keep growing, changing, and building new patterns - even after a lifetime of operating in a different way! It is in relationships where we are often the most harmed, and therefore it is in the context of relationship where we can find the deepest and most enduring experience of healing. 

I approach therapy from this relational/interpersonal perspective, and I am also informed by psychodynamic, narrative, attachment, family systems, trauma-informed and holistic approaches to therapy. When working with me you can expect that we will pay a lot of attention to the relationships and stories of your life - past, present, and future.  We will also spend a lot of time getting to know what your body has to say and learning to pay attention to its subtle cues.  Your story already holds answers to some of the questions or concerns that might plague you, such as: What is going on that makes it so I feel unhappy when I have such a good life? I can't keep it up forever that I have it all together - eventually everyone is going to learn the truth about me and that is terrifying.  Why am I so afraid of conflict?  Why is it that I can't seem to feel much of anything, even towards people I care about? Why do I sabotage when things in my life start going well? Slowing down and paying attention to what your story and body has to say will help us discover together the wisdom and answers that are already within you.

My clients and colleagues describe me as both gentle and bold; I bring kindness to bear on the parts of your story that are covered in shame - and I am not afraid to dig in and fight for freedom on your behalf.  You will have to work in order to experience the healing you desire. My job is to help you find your own wisdom and, because goodness can actually be quite terrifying for most of us, help you stay in the fight for more goodness, more freedom, and a more whole and integrated self.  You deserve nothing less.

Your grief for what you’ve lost lifts a mirror
up to where you are bravely working.
Expecting the worst, you look, and instead,
here’s the joyful face you’ve been wanting to see.
Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.
If it were always a fist or always stretched open,
you would be paralyzed.
Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding,
the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated
as birdwings.
— Rumi